Family…

Hey everyone, so… Family?

Family to me is the people in your life that actually want you in theirs, the people in your life that support you in the things you choose to do, the people in your life who love you, respect you, and who you can depend on and most importantly it’s the people in your life who are always there no matter what!

I personally can count my close family on one hand and I can probably even count the rest of my family on two but do you know what, I think the quantity of people you have in your life is completely irrelevant when the qualities of the few people that you do have are second to none…

My Mum is a pretty good example to be honest. In 22 years she has got married to my Dad, bought a house, had two kids and started her own business (in which she is the best at). The only family members who chose to stand by her through it all, supporting her every single step of the way other than my Dad were her two Nanna’s. Mind you having her two Nanna’s in her life really did make up for the rest of the family as they truly are one of a kind especially because they have also played a huge part in my life and I am so fortunate to be able to call them my Nanna’s too.

We do not have my Nanna Violet in our life anymore as she sadly passed away 7 years ago and I have not seen my other Nanna in over 4 years, due to a few personal issues I have had going on (don’t worry I am planning to do a post about this very soon) but it will still never change the fact that they were the only two people besides my Mum and Dad of course, who actually went above and beyond to ensure me and my Brother had the very best start in life. I remember my Mum telling me that it was my Nanna Violet who always said “I am giving them what the others haven’t” if this isn’t a prime example of quality over quantity, I don’t know what is…

Me, my Mum, my Dad and my Brother are all really close as a family and I do think part of the reason why we are so close is because my Mum and Dad have been happily married for 20 years and the love they share only continues to grow stronger, making us as a family even stronger. I mean I could have a thousand ‘family members’ suddenly decide to try and walk in to my life but not one of them would come even remotely close to my Mum and Dad, they have been everything I need and more and I really don’t know what I would do without them.

I have other family members, who I have not actually seen for as long as I can remember, make the effort to stay in contact and despite not seeing them for such a long period of time they still manage to reach out in other ways to show their love and support and for that I am more than grateful for.

I am 19 not far off 20 years old and I am more than content with the family I have around me, I know that if people really want to be in your life they will make an effort to do so and if they don’t… it’s their loss, it is as simple as that!

Malise xx

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Mother’s Day

Hey everyone, with it being Mother’s Day today, I thought I would do a post, solely for the most important people to me, on this day!

So… most importantly happy mother’s day to my mum, or my twin as she likes to say… I am so grateful for all that you do, I couldn’t ask for anyone better to; shop for, style, borrow clothes off and occasionally wind up. You continue to show your love and support always and I can’t thank you enough! Lots of love always.❤️

Also happy Mother’s Day to both of my Nanna’s, Joyce and Violet, who did nothing but spoil me when I was younger… I have had so many good memories with them and they were there all through out my life growing up, no matter what, even when I did dye their hair multi-colours, when they came to babysit.❤️

Malise xx

18…

Hey everyone… it’s been a while but I’m back with a quick post!

So yeah I turned 18 last week (5th October) which is definitely a huge milestone for me, more in the sense that I’m blessed to have actually got through everything that has been thrown at me and made it this far! I can say I honestly wasn’t really that excited for my birthday, as I’m not really in the place in the my life that I wanted to be in right now but like always, I ended up having a fab time…

Thanks to my mum, dad and brother of course, it’s safe to say I was truly spoilt, (which I’m beyond grateful for) even though I didn’t ask for anything, they always manage to pull it out the bag and make it a good one! (Even if I did get woken up far to early). I came downstairs to a overly decorated house, presents, cards, chocolate cake and of course… my mum singing happy birthday and to top it all of we ended the day with a huge takeaway!

I’d like to say a BIG thank you to my family and friends for the amazing cards and presents and most of all, for the effort that was made to make it a special day for me! Also thank you to everyone else, who actually took the time to wish me a happy birthday too!

Malise xx

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Proving ‘them’ wrong!

Hey guys, there is no greater pleasure in life, than proving the people that doubted you, wrong…

When receiving so much doubt from the teachers at school… I always got told ‘you can’t do this’ and ‘you can’t do that’, ‘you will never be able to’… and so on! I really questioned myself after that, I thought that maybe they were right, what’s the point, I’m never going to become who I want to be…

How wrong was I? After overcoming everything I had been through, I was so determined to prove to everyone, that has looked down on me and doubted me, wrong. I always loved writing in primary school, it was only when I faced the problems in high school, that I lost my love for it!

I was certain that it was journalism that I wanted to do and I wasn’t letting anything, stand in my way this time! That’s when I plucked up the courage to enrol in an online feature writing course… I’m not going to lie, I was afraid of failing, just in case it made me lose my way… again, but I already knew so much from my constant research, I didn’t want to throw all the hard work I put in, away. As the days went by, I was learning so much more, I had literally read all the information I needed to know, in a week. All that was left was the assessment…

A 96% pass and a diploma later, I was actually so shocked! I was a step closer to achieving my goal. It was such a big life lesson for me, I can… I will… watch me!

“The ones that say ‘you can’t’ and ‘you won’t’ are probably the ones scared that ‘you will”.

Malise xx

 

“Expect nothing, appreciate everything”

Wow… never in a million years did I think I would get this much support and positivity! I’m so grateful, for each and every one of you, supporting me on the start of this exciting journey. I wish you all nothing but the best!

Malise xx

 

‘Look at me now’

Hey! I’ve got a fair few of you wondering, from my first piece, exactly what, why and how, made me want to ‘change for the better’ so that’s exactly what I’m going to openly and honestly share with you all!

I’m going to start with where it all spiralled from, so, imagine being targeted… by your ‘teachers’, (I know shocker right?) but it’s the truth! Everything they did wrong got turned on to me and because I said what I thought about the situation, they came down on me like a ton of bricks. (It wasn’t every teacher because there was the odd few, that I could actually trust). I’m not saying I didn’t make any mistakes because I did, but I took full responsibility for them! No matter how much my mum and dad went in to school, nothing ever changed…

(Well actually it did for the worst!) right from getting put in to isolation for being wrongly accused, from having to have my bag checked because a so called teacher ‘misinterpreted’ something I said. Down to finding out that pupils, had been looking at my personal school file, while being under a teachers supervision! (Who is now funnily enough the head of safeguarding). I remember some of my friends saying to me “you little sh*t” after seeing me with the headteacher. I would always let them assume because it was so much easier, than having to explain and risk getting punished for making the school ‘look bad’. No one knew the half of it!

The final straw was basically getting put on ‘twilight hours’, there was no actual explanation why, apart from ‘everything you have done in the past’. I’ve personally always seen it as, once you’ve taken full responsibility and accepted the punishment for your actions, that’s the end of it and it’s done with! However they was pretty convinced that I was not aloud back in to full time education, until I completed them hours. So after a week of phone calls and requesting meetings, but still getting no where, I decided, right I will give these hours a go (I must of been crazy) but it was the only thing stopping me from getting an education. Never did I think making that decision, would have had as big of an impact on my health and lifestyle as it did…

It was the stress, it was literally taking over. It had a huge impact on me physically, mentally and emotionally. I remember getting up at 6:30 a.m every morning and having to be in school for 8 a.m. The first two days was hard but it was the third day, that was worrying. I would get up and start getting ready, then literally look in the mirror and just completely breakdown. I had no control what so ever! My mum didn’t know what was going on and most importantly neither did I. I knew myself it was out of character and I wasn’t in the right mindset to be going in to school, so my mum phoned up and explained the situation and all she got was “okay she will have to add another day on to her hours then”. I knew that I had to get them ‘hours’ done with, despite what consequences it was having on my health… so that’s exactly what I did!

I was back in school, for one full day before the holidays and let me tell you now that day was anything but normal, as much as I tried to ‘be myself’ deep down I knew I wasn’t! At the start of the holidays, I was avoiding everything I normally enjoyed doing. It even got to the point where I wouldn’t leave my house. I was occasionally having mental breakdowns, that even resulted in me smashing my iPad in anger, for no apparent reason. I was a mess. It was not only affecting me, but also my family. My mum decided she was going to homeschool me herself and I agreed as it was the only thing left to do, little did I know, it was going to be the best decision we ever made! It was a rocky start but not having that unnecessary amount of stress to deal with, helped me so much.

I was sick of living like I did, I knew I needed to do something about it. After months of researching what was wrong with me, I decided to have a positive outlook on it. I began writing down everything I needed to change, in order to feel myself again. My health, diet and mindset were the three things I focussed on, I realised it was something I was deeply passionate for! I’m not saying it was an easy ride because it wasn’t. It was probably the biggest challenge I faced but with determination, a little help from google and my family of course, I was gradually starting to feel my normal, healthy self…

Now to this day, from being homeschooled, I’ve learnt so much more than I have ever learnt in any school! While also achieving a diploma in feature writing and managing to maintain a healthy lifestyle, with a positive mindset.

“The comeback is always stronger than the set back”

Malise xx

 

A change for the better!

Hey guys, this is my first content piece, (it’s going to be nothing but open and honest…) so what better way to start than with how I changed my health and lifestyle for the better!

In 2015 (back when I was in school) I was under an unnecessary amount of stress, eating a poor diet and doing very minimal excerise, which all lead to me feeling absolutely terrible in myself, especially with all the problems that followed e.g bad complexion, mental breakdowns, low energy, low self esteem, anxiety and depression. I was basically the worst version of myself. That’s when I knew I had to change something! Google became my best friend at this point, you know those late night searches, self diagnosing, until stupid 0’clock… (yep that was pretty much my life then).

That was until I became really interested in health and nutrition, it literally took over a big part of my life (in a positive way) and still does to this day. I focussed on changing my diet, lifestyle and mindset, it was a challenge, but one I was willing to try… Changing my diet I personally found relatively easy, it was keeping a positive mindset and having a stress free lifestyle that I found the most challenging. However having a passion for something really helped me with staying positive, (especially when I can be my own worst critic). Being homeschooled pretty much solved the stress problem, that and actually taking time to unwind and relax now and then. I obviously still have my good and bad days now, but who doesn’t right?

“Believe you can and you’re half way there”

Malise xx

 

My first blog post…

Hey everyone, this is my first ever post (I’m very new to this as you can probably tell) so here goes… I’m Malise Honey, I’m 17 years old, I live in South Yorkshire. Since being homeschooled from the age of 15, I’ve got a real passion for everything Health and Beauty related.

By achieving a diploma in feature writing, it really gave me the confidence boost and encouragement I needed to finally start my blog. I’m super excited to share everything I’ve learnt with you guys and to hopefully inspire and motivate you all, with what I know and love, including my lifestyle, healthy living, my favourite beauty routines and my holy grail products.

Malise xx